Wedding Planner – A Guide to Your Big Day

You’ve decided to take the plunge and are now wondering how to plan the perfect wedding. Most people are unaccustomed to managing such a major event, so I have put together this planner as a guide to help you organize the big day.

While some weddings are extravagant events with hundreds of guests, others are simple, intimate occasions shared with close family and a few friends. If you are planning an informal wedding you do not need to observe many of the formalities, but there are still many points of etiquette and time-honored rituals, which you may find useful.

Discuss and decide on the style of wedding you want early on, bearing in mind that what the bride and her attendants wear will set the mood and influence the flowers, transport, the ceremony and reception. Another decision you need to make early is where you will hold the reception and who will take the photographs, as most weddings take place on Saturday and sometimes reception centers and photographers are booked up to a year in advance. I hope you find this planner useful in helping you achieve a more relaxing engagement and enjoyable wedding day.

The engagement
As soon as you decide to marry, consider yourselves engaged. Your immediate families should be the first to know. You may decide to wait until you have bought the engagement ring before announcing your engagement officially. The days when the engagement ring and the proposal were given on bended knee are long over – today the couple usually choose the ring together. Take into consideration your coloring, lifestyle and shape of your hands when choosing your ring.

Announcements
If you are having a press announcement, traditionally the bride’s parents arrange and pay for it.

The common wording is:
Steve and Jane Brown of Mt Albert, Auckland, are delighted to announce the engagement of their only daughter Emily to John, the eldest son of Mike and Suzie James of Lower Hutt, Wellington.

Both sets of parents should inform other relations and the bride and groom should inform their friends. You may feel that once engaged, the sooner you can be married the better. But weddings, even small ones, take time to organize, and six months is an average length of time. Before you finally set your date you must decide on the style of wedding, financial priorities and number of guests. Check that the church or registry office, marriage celebrant, photographer and reception centre are all available on that date.